People always told me before I had children "They will be your teacher", "You will never be the same", "No two kids are alike", "They will change your life"."Yeh, right"I would say. I knew it all. I had baby sat, taken child development courses and had younger siblings. I knew every thing there was to know. I knew the schedules, how I wanted them to behave, what I would teach them...They would be "mini me's" HA! HA! HA! HA! HA! HA! HA!
The first one Savannah is easy going, very proper, responsible, smart, pretty and always wants to do the right thing. I think to my self "One down one to go" Perfect all according to plan.
Then came Holly. She is full of life, determined, self driven, nonconformist, visionary, master of self and manipulation. She is artistic,creative, thinks out side the box and never I mean never does she do anything the traditional way. Not even writing her letters. Me being some what of a perfectionist and a lot like Savannah I have a hard time understanding why anyone would want to reinvent the wheel everyday. Never taking the easy was as I see it. She is brilliant at finding an even easier way. Stubborn to the core and never gives up on what she believes. Case in point she will not say she is "sorry" because she believes it is a lie and that she meant to do what she did...Brutal Honesty I tell you. She will take the consequence but will not compromise self. I wonder some times where will this lead her? What can I do as a mother? It can be very frustrating but at the same time I do not want to break this incredible spirit. Most of us only dream of having the confidence and strength to live in self truth. There countless books written on the importance of this. And yet when faced with a child with a in born nature so strong to live this way our reaction is to change it.......
Last night Savannah had to make Irish Tea cookies for an international heritage presantation she is doing at school. She researched the recipe, made the dough, rolled it out, placed sweet green sprinkles on all of them and when she was thru she cleaned the kitchen...I know remarkable for a 12 year old. Love it.
Now Holly, she tries to be involved in what her sister is doing. I give her dough to work with. She begins to roll it out, cuts a few shapes and decides that it is terribly boring. She finds inspiration and when I come back into the room this is what she has created.
You have got to love creativity..And I remember to let her be her and embrace the differences between the girls for Night is as beautiful as Day.